From time to time my friends share tid bits of their shidduch experiences.
Recently a friend of mine mentioned the following story;
“The other night I was preparing for a date and I decided to text her saying “I’m looking forward to tonight” to which she texted back, “Danielle, the date just texted me, I can’t believe I’m actually going to waste my time on this guy.”
You’re probably wondering what happened afterwards. Well I can tell you he still took her out as she called him soon afterwards to apologize profusely. I have to give him a Kudos for manning up and still taking her out regardless even while knowing what she really thinks of him. Naturally it didn’t go anywhere as it was a one-and-done ordeal, unsurprisingly mutually they both didn’t want to continue.
While we had a good laugh at my friends experience (he’s a good-natured guy), I think it’s important to note that what my friend had done took a lot of guts. He manned up and did the chivalrous thing. I know that for myself and for many others they would have simply text or called the girl back and just shut the date down on the spot. Girls like the one in the story are a dime a dozen, and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve taken out girls who seem sweet and good-natured on the date. However after a little time spent with them, and a bit of snooping around – I discover that the girl in question has a bit of a reputation for not being the sweet thing they pose to be. My friend was just lucky enough that he caught a glimpse of her darker side from the get go and quickly distanced himself.