Our Smorgasbord Etiquette

In a world that has gone global it’s no wonder that an increasing amount of jewish singles are willing to travel to date. In New York city alone it’s been reported of having 30,000 singles living or visiting at any given time. Whether this number is higher or lower the fact is well-known that New York is a shidduch potential hotspot. With many dating websites and organizations springing up in the last few years (JDate, SawYouAtSinai, Frumster, etc.) the single scene has only become larger, and people have become more accessible meeting others they would otherwise never have met. With such a smorgasbord of singles, no matter how Jewish your background, your etiquette’s are bound to have dissimilarities. Whether you are new to the dating game or a seasoned veteran, there are always “do’s” and “don’ts” of dating. To some this will be common sense but to others these are habits and manners which need to be taught and put into practice.

Here is a compiled list of some “do’s” and “don’ts” which summarize the feedback that I’ve collected over the years.

Several themes have emerged among men and women, the behavior they appreciate most when out on a date – and the social graces they can definitely do without. I hope you find these tips helpful as you navigate your way through the dating experience.


  • Be positive and upbeat.
  • Look your best.
  • Dress appropriately.
  • Be a good listener.
  • Demonstrate that you have a sense of humour.
  • Be easy-going, especially if things don’t go as planned.
  • Be polite and courteous.
  • Be accommodating about where to go on your date.
  • Return phone calls on a timely basis.
  • Relax and enjoy yourself.


  • Don’t monopolize the conversation. Ask questions and listen at least as much as you talk.
  • Don’t be late.
  • Don’t talk about former relationships.
  • Don’t brag about your achievements or financial success.
  • Don’t be negative.
  • Don’t talk on your cell phone.
  • Don’t read received texts.
  • Don’t talk endlessly about your kids (if you have any).
  • Don’t be rude to the waiter.
  • Don’t look at your watch.
  • Don’t invite friends to join you on your date.

As you’ve probably figured out by now it’s mostly common sense.

Should you have any tips or advice of your own feel free to express them in the comments section.


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