Calling out “Thinking Jew Girl”

I just read an article from the Thinking Jew Girl (TJG) blog. I’m calling her out on being stupid, immature, or simply has a lack of life experience. (I’m sure she’s a really nice person though.. did I mention she has a good blog! I’m now following it.)

She’s annoyed that a guy on a date told her she was “Put Together”. This was her coup de gras, the straw that broke the camels back!

How terrible is it that a boy told her she was well brought up, presented herself nicely, maturely, and a bunch of other strong values and traits that she presented that night on their date.

Shame on him for speaking his mind… He certainly went overboard over there… way too forward, what was he thinking? Clearly this boy must be a teffilin dater and TJG just isn’t one of those girls.

What a pile of crap.

If a man compliments you on a date… thank him, compliment him back, say what a nice time you had or make something up… just for the love of god don’t put him down… say something positive about him, the date, or something from the experiences you two shared.

Honestly is it such a crime a man tried to speak his mind and not try to sound too forward?

It’s not like he was trying to get you into bed… and he certainly could have said a thousand other things that could have come off as too forward, awkward, sleazy, etc…

I think you effed up with this one.

I think your reasons for breaking up with him were completely valid. No reason for a second date needed. But this was the straw that broke the camels back? Seriously? Woman you are not ready for a true gentleman in your life. Because Gentlemen compliment women when they can.

Lastly, I give huge props to any guy with the kahunas to compliment a girl on a date. It’s hard enough being shomer, a gentleman, or your knight in shining armor… we are hard pressed to charm and dazzle you girls. Sometimes we take risks, one of those risks is complimenting you if we’re interested. If you’re a beautiful girl, we want you to know that we see it… we think YOU are valuable. We want you to know all that hard effort you put into your life to find your basheret, we see it, we know it, we value it.

Don’t condemn a guy for trying to express himself, even if at the time it sounded awkward or odd.. give the man in the TJG story a frikkin scotch & cigar. You get Bro points for trying. Better to swing and a miss, then to never swing at all. Rejection is part of life, this man clearly faces it head on. Like a man should.

Kudos!

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8 responses to “Calling out “Thinking Jew Girl”

  1. I give you major props on writing this post. It is long overdue. Many of the ranting of many of the female bloggers out there have long been getting on my nerves. Good on you for finally calling one of them out on an extraordinarily stupid move / post.

    • Agreed. I also got fed up with it, twice now.

      It would be nice to get the guys with blogs to voice our dating perspectives collectively. Maybe we can even hash out some of those age-old dating issues…

    • BS”D
      Discussion with Moishela (with his family)
      A Handicapped child
      3 Cheshvan 5775 (Oct 26, ’14)

      FROM: http://www.dani18.com/uploads/MSL-C1.pdf

      Also a powerful Video from Moishela to the Jews
      “a wake-up call”

      “The Noose Is Getting Tighter”

      The world has absolutely gone mad, absolutely mad. Murder, accidents, weather related deaths, riots, plagues, Mamash a very scary world. Every day something new. Every day something more bloody. Every day more and more deaths. Every day we become more and more frightened.

      The noose is getting tighter and tighter around us, and the worst part about it is that no one seems to feel it except a very few. Very few people feel it at all. Either they don’t want to feel it so they ignore it, or they are really in some very strong daze or under some kind of drug that keeps them from seeing what is happening. It doesn’t even have to be medication, although I would imagine that in the western world at least 50% of the people are on some kind of psychiatric medication. They drug themselves on Gashmius on materialism so they won’t know, so they won’t feel, so they won’t be afraid. What is happening is frightening because the world is beginning to feel the effects of being ruled by a group of absolute maniacs, of people that are evil to their bone. They are planning crazy things and thinking they can get away with it, thinking that they can turn the world into their private domain, that they can take the Jewish people and turn them into Goyim. Their greatest goal that they want to achieve is they want to destroy, to kill nine-tenths of the world population. What can I tell you? We Yidden are being targeted. Our faith is being targeted, and we must, must come back to Hashem in order to stop it.

      I have dreams, I have such frightening dreams every night. I see cities being blown up. I see all kinds of terrible things happening. I see wild men killing and plundering. I see planes shooting and bombing. I see people dying of thirst and hunger, and I cry and I cry. I am so nervous and so afraid, not for myself – for my family and for Am Yisroel, how terrible, how terrible. I’m not even giving you the details of what I see but it’s very very frightening! I don’t know how to pass on to my fellow Jews through what I am writing, the difficult things we still have to face.

      How can I beg? How can I plead with Am Yisroel to open their eyes, to get rid of the Gashmius, to stop looking like street people, to start looking again like Jews, to start acting again like Jews? I’m talking to the Frum. What else can I say to you? What else can I do? If you read over everything I’ve said to this point, you should already be doing Teshuva in the strongest way, but I see in the streets that people are buying and buying things that are not necessary. I see that they are making fancy parties and fancy Chasunas and things that are not necessary. I see and I feel that children are growing up to love, to lust after Gashmius. I see how we are eating like gluttons, but have become very very weak in our Mitzvos and it makes me cry. Now we are facing the most horribly difficult time in history and we’re messing around with nonsense.

      What can I say? What can I do? I’m only a young person with an old head and an old heart, but I can tell you this: you better straighten up fast. You better get your act together because the suffering is going to be unbelievable if not, and if you take yourself in hand then you can save yourself so much suffering, so much misery. Do you understand? People, do you understand? You can save yourselves so much suffering, but if not it will be unimaginable suffering. I’m begging you. I’m begging you. Put your trust in Hashem not in people, not in science, not in chief rabbis, or in heads of state. Put your trust only in Hashem, only in Hashem, only in Hashem. We have to be like the Yidden that left Mitzrayim and spent forty years in the desert. We have to be like that. We have to have that kind of trust of Hashem without question, no matter what happens, no questions asked. We must know in our hearts and our souls that it’s all for our good, it’s to help us go higher, to help us reach the next stage of Creation which is Olam Habah of Moshiach Tzidkainu, and our journey upwards, to total salvation, to completely become one with Hashem. That’s what I have to say.

      I’m afraid that my words have become useless because people have become used to listening to them, even though they are harsh and they are strong and people see around them terrible things happening, but they are getting used to it. They want their Gashmius more than they want to listen. So I will say a few more sentences to make sure you understand. Please, please do Teshuva. Change your way of life. Become Tzniusdik, the men and the women. Trust Hashem in everything. Don’t go looking outside of your Daled Amos for the Yeshua. The Yeshua is only with Hashem, only with Hashem. In the near future we are going to witness very bloody happenings, very frightening and very bloody. Here in Eretz Yisroel there will be more riots and more trouble, but in Chutz La’aretz it will be really bad, really bad.

      Between now and Chanukah we are going to have a rush of incidents all over the world, that will put great fear into most of the population of the world. You won’t know where to look first, up, down, left, right. Everywhere there will be trouble big big trouble. Hashem is trying to show us that the inevitable must be and that means that we are coming very close to the Geula Sheleima, and the hardest part of this birth is now and therefore you can either have an easy birth or a very difficult one. It’s your choice.

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