I just read an article from the Thinking Jew Girl (TJG) blog. I’m calling her out on being stupid, immature, or simply has a lack of life experience. (I’m sure she’s a really nice person though.. did I mention she has a good blog! I’m now following it.)
She’s annoyed that a guy on a date told her she was “Put Together”. This was her coup de gras, the straw that broke the camels back!
How terrible is it that a boy told her she was well brought up, presented herself nicely, maturely, and a bunch of other strong values and traits that she presented that night on their date.
Shame on him for speaking his mind… He certainly went overboard over there… way too forward, what was he thinking? Clearly this boy must be a teffilin dater and TJG just isn’t one of those girls.
What a pile of crap.
If a man compliments you on a date… thank him, compliment him back, say what a nice time you had or make something up… just for the love of god don’t put him down… say something positive about him, the date, or something from the experiences you two shared.
Honestly is it such a crime a man tried to speak his mind and not try to sound too forward?
It’s not like he was trying to get you into bed… and he certainly could have said a thousand other things that could have come off as too forward, awkward, sleazy, etc…
I think you effed up with this one.
I think your reasons for breaking up with him were completely valid. No reason for a second date needed. But this was the straw that broke the camels back? Seriously? Woman you are not ready for a true gentleman in your life. Because Gentlemen compliment women when they can.
Lastly, I give huge props to any guy with the kahunas to compliment a girl on a date. It’s hard enough being shomer, a gentleman, or your knight in shining armor… we are hard pressed to charm and dazzle you girls. Sometimes we take risks, one of those risks is complimenting you if we’re interested. If you’re a beautiful girl, we want you to know that we see it… we think YOU are valuable. We want you to know all that hard effort you put into your life to find your basheret, we see it, we know it, we value it.
Don’t condemn a guy for trying to express himself, even if at the time it sounded awkward or odd.. give the man in the TJG story a frikkin scotch & cigar. You get Bro points for trying. Better to swing and a miss, then to never swing at all. Rejection is part of life, this man clearly faces it head on. Like a man should.